Because even soul work has off days.

Some days, spiritual growth looks like journaling by candlelight.
Other days, it looks like staring at your phone, eating cheddar straight from the bag, and wondering if you’re the only one who feels this disconnected.

You’re not.

In fact, the moment you notice that you’re feeling off—that tug in your chest that whispers, “Something’s missing…”—that’s growth. Even if you haven’t showered, even if you’re mentally checked out, and even if your oracle cards are buried under a pile of unopened mail.

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When “Better” Feels Like It Should Be “Perfect”

I’m juggling a lot these days. Like most women I know, I’m usually trying to do two or three things at once—listening to a self-help audiobook while playing Sudoku, stirring soup, and wondering why my left hip suddenly feels 90 years old.

So when I tell myself I want to deepen my spiritual practice—especially as someone who wants to be a more grounded, more intuitive healer—my perfectionist brain kicks in hard.

It says things like:
• “You should sit quietly.”
• “No animals—they keep moving.”
• “Put on focus music.”
• “Set a timer.”
• “Make sure you have a goal for this meditation or it doesn’t count.”

And sometimes I actually do all that.

But most days? Nope. Most days I try to sit in silence and end up yelling at the dog for chewing on my sandal and mentally organizing my spice drawer while pretending I’m aligning my chakras.

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Spoiler: You’re Still Growing

Here’s the secret: spiritual growth isn’t about doing it “right.”

It’s not about pristine rituals or long hours of uninterrupted stillness. It’s not about becoming someone else.

It’s about noticing—without judgment—where you are today.

It’s about pausing between texts to take a breath.
It’s about catching yourself in a shame spiral and whispering, “Not today, brain gremlins.”
It’s about being willing to come back to yourself, again and again, even if that “self” is frazzled, overcaffeinated, and spiritually limping.

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Five Tiny Soul Practices for the Overstimulated and Underwhelmed

If you’re feeling disconnected, but still want to grow—start small. Really small. Kaizen-style.

Here are five things you can do even if your energy is at “scroll and snack” level:

1. Place a hand on your heart and say: “I’m doing my best.” Say it again. And again.
2. Sit outside for two minutes. Don’t bring your phone. Just… exist.
3. Write one honest line in a journal: “Spirit, I feel _______ today.”
4. Put your phone down and name three things you can see, hear, and feel.
5. Thank something ordinary. Your tea. Your body. Your messy, sacred life.

None of these will earn you a gold star. But that’s not the point.

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Redefining Progress

The old model of spiritual “success” says: meditate for 20 minutes, don’t get distracted, wear white linen, and radiate calm.

The new model says: show up as you are.

Bored. Restless. Distracted. Trying anyway.

You don’t have to feel connected for connection to be happening.
You don’t have to do it perfectly to be on the path.
You don’t have to meet anyone else’s idea of what spiritual growth “should” look like.

You just have to be honest with yourself—and kind when you can.

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Let It Be Enough

So if today was a cheese-and-scroll day, that’s okay.

If your spiritual practice was pausing mid-scroll to take a deep breath and remind yourself that you’re still here? That counts.

If you’re longing for more connection, more meaning, more peace—you’re not alone.
And just by noticing that longing, you’re already finding your way back.

No focus music required.

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Bonus Soul Support

If you need a gentle reminder to come back to yourself, check out the “Do One Kind Thing for Your Soul” mug in the Spiritual Crap shop. Because sacred moments start small—and sometimes with tea.